posted from the hospital while her son Reed was very ill with malaria getting treatment

posted from the hospital while her son Reed was very ill with malaria getting treatment

** update ** It came to my attention that this looked like an attack on a person, so I have redacted her name and renamed her “Ms Nay-sayer” to make it clear it is about celebrating all of your love, not smearing anyone’s name.

We had one person who made negative attack comment on Stephanie’s post on Monday’s Facebook post about our financial crisis and need to raise up more support to keep our ministry work in Kenya feeding and ministering to the poor moving along well. She claimed we should not be doing this work helping poor in “other countries” but spending our effort helping locals here in the USA only. A very myopic and racist comment any reasonable person could see. That comment was not received well by many of Jeff and Stephanie Bys supporters and fans! 😂😅
While I have heard this kind of nonsense before on some of my posts by nay-sayers who lacked the love of Jesus or see the need to help the worlds poor and needy like we are doing , I was very blessed and happy to see how well many supporters and fans responded to this attack on 
Stephanie Bys. Many of you were very gracious in not being too mean to the nay-sayer, but tried to nicely help her see the error of her ways. God is working in all of you and in us in mighty ways!! Thank you for being the light of Christ in how you act and speak to the world around us. Discipleship is also about how we respond to our enemies.
THANK YOU JESUS for moving in so many to defend this, your ministry in Kenya and other parts of the World in which you shed your holy blood!
Assuming correctly that the person might well delete her comment and we lose the entire thread of wonderful responses, (because people tend to do that to save face and not "look bad" when they see so many people counter what they say) I thought to copy to a word document and save all the responses up to that time to archive the glory of God at work through you all! Here below is Stephanie’s original Facebook post in which so many of you shared and poured out donations to help us overwhelmingly meet our needs!

Here is the FB post link https://www.facebook.com/mrsbys/posts/10219730082472245 here you can read and follow all the comments, but below I will post her actual post and only the now deleted post by the nay-sayer and all the comments in that thread that followed ; all but about 4 more comments are captured that got deleted by her before I could copy them.



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We are in DIRE need of food money. As of now we no longer have the funds to keep up with our weekly food budget. The drought has more than doubled our food cost for the home and school depleting our funds over the last few months. Just for example we usually spend $45 on potatoes weekly, last week we paid $130 for the same amount of potatoes 😲. We will have to completely stop the feeding program 💔 and drastically cut our own menu if we don't get some funds in, in the next couple of days. I'm okay changing our home menu some to try and cut cost where we can. If we drop meat the 4 days a week we eat it that will free up $120 that we can use to continue to feed the village children, but we won't be able to continue 2 meals a day for them. I'm not really sure what to do other than to ask for your help and prayers.

If you are able to help at all it would be a huge blessing to us and the children around us. A tight budget makes for a stressed out Mama and dropping the feeding program just feels absolutely wrong to me. It takes a lot of money to keep a ministry this size going and we have SO many people depending on us. The pressure and stress is crazy high for me right now and now we have a hospital bill coming for Reed 😭. Please pray for our funding needs to be met and for us to accept the changes that may have to happen. Link is in comments and on each picture.

#prayersplease #feedingourvillage #mercychristianacademy#mercychildrenshome #feedthechildren #kenya #drought

 

 

·         Ms Nay-sayer: Sorry, but we have starving children here in the United States! We should be focusing on feeding and taking caring of them, instead of people in other countries

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o    Emily Mullins Ms Nay-sayer If you are called to focus on the kids in the US than that is awesome - start your ministry! This family has been called to minister in Kenya! Give where you feel called to give, but don’t judge a family who is serving where the Lord has called them!

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o    Ms Nay-sayer Emily Mullins I'm an NYC Attorney who works for the district attorney's office. I put criminals behind bars. THAT includes people that abuse and neglect children...so THAT is my so called ministry. So stay in your lane, because you know nothing about me

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o    Jeremy B. Strang Ms Nay-sayer ...and in like turn, you know nothing about what we do in our ministries and churches here in the states, so use your defense against your own comment. You don't have to follow us. Thank you for commenting for it helps us spread the word on Facebook.

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o    Dawn Ranae Hudnell Then you should have said nothing on this post, because as u said, you're called to do what you are as she is called to serve these children. God's hands are much wider than the US. I'm sure she's not putting u down for your calling God has you in.

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o    Ms Nay-sayer Actually Jeremy B. Strang my mother and father were ordained pastors for many years...so try again!

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Charaki Yeomans Ms Nay-sayer, I’m sorry you feel this way, and you are entitled to your opinion. However, I see no reason for your current harshness. There are children who need help EVERYWHERE. I run a non profit children’s ministry, and am the full time youth minister at my church. My family did foster care for 10 years while I was growing up. Now we are starting a ministry for kids who age out. I also feel called to overseas missions and am taking a short trip to Kenya next year. God calls us to minister to all people. Matthew 28:19-20. Just because it isn’t your calling doesn’t make it wrong...

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Jennifer Leonard God does not see borders and countries. Jesus didn’t tell us to go and love only your people in your land..he said to love and care for one another..all people. 'Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost" Matthew 28:19 That says quite the opposite of what your saying Ms Nay-sayer . We are the hands and the feet and God puts specific ministries in peoples hearts. Who are you/we to say what hungry child is to be fed?

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o    Miranda Wallen Kester God also said not judge other's, unless you want to be judged. Just because Ms Nay-sayer doesn't agree with this, doesn't mean any of you have the right to bash her for it. I'm sure none of you are without sin either. At least she's trying to get the wrong people off the streets! I and my husband are ordained youth pastor's, my in law's are both pastor's. I know what it takes to be in the ministry. However with that being said, ministry will only go so far! As I've told many, don't criticize my beliefs...and I won't show you the flaws in yours. 

Again, just because Ms Nay-sayer doesn't agree with what this ministry is doing, doesn't give any of you the right to criticize her.

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Dianeh Joy I don’t think anyone is criticizing her Miranda, they are imploring her to open her heart a little wider.. many years I turned the channel when I saw starving children in Africa, or I'd scroll right passed posts like this, but somewhere along the line God stretched out my tent stakes and expanded my helps as well. I traveled to this ministry last winter and it's so awesome to see that they are literally saving lives! We all have our own calling, and no one is better or worse than the other.. it's just wonderful if we can respect that there are seasons in our lives we are called to different places. It really is an honor, where ever we are called whether its NYC, or Kenya or just to make ends meet for our own family. 

Surely a call to pray and ask God for generous hearts to provide for this ministry is not too much to ask. Stephanie and Jeff Bys, please don’t get discouraged, God loves these little ones so much. I'm blessed to do whatever I can to help, even if it is to "just" pray (haha), (we know that's actually the first and the best thing we can do to help)

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Stephanie Bys Ms Nay-sayer actually America is very much part of the reason we are in Kenya. We tried to help kids in America and served children in America in different ways before we ever moved here. But really it is the red tape that showed us we had to go outside of America to really help. We adopted from CPS, but as I'm sure you know CPS isn't large family friendly and that makes it difficult to help children who need help. For whatever reason God called us here to Kenya. It CERTAINLY was NOT my idea to live life in a 3rd world country, always being exposed to malaria, not having power and running water at all times and struggling most days, but this is what God has for us. At the end of the day I'm called to love and care for children. No matter their address, place of birth or status. Personally I would like to the church in America rise up and make a huge dent in the needy children in America, bit that is a whole different post. However, you won't find it in the Bible that the children in America are more important than the ones in Kenya. We have to, have to get outside of that thinking. "Our own" if we are believers are people period, not just ones in the states.

Thank you for your service and helping children. I'm a product of child abuse and doubt that you can even know the good you are doing. Growing up in a home with abuse is a horrible thing and I will always stand up for the voiceless. 💜

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o    Amy Hammond Stephanie Bys I must admit, my first thought was that Kenyan children are no less deserving than American children. And while I am sure that is not what Ms Nay-sayer meant, I am glad you addressed that. How is your son that had to go to the hospital?

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o    Allen Davis You are an amazing woman of God doing his work and I am so very grateful that you are meeting their needs in Kenya. 

I worked with abused and neglected children from July 2001 to March 2019 and I can attest to the fact that all children need to be lov…See More

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o    Tia Wyman Heldt Ms Nay-sayer ALL lives matter to God, both in American and in other countries ❤️

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Stephanie Bys Amy Hammond he is doing some better. He woke up thirsty when before he was refusing all food and drink. We will likely be here until Wednesday.

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o    Amy Hammond Stephanie Bys that is really good to hear. I wish he was just better instantly but improvement is a blessing too.

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o    Katie Cooper Jesus loves children in Kenya just as much as he loves children in the United States.

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o    Melissa Klassen Carter Ms Nay-sayer why are you following God’s work in Kenya through Jeff and Stephanie if you believe that American children should be helped before children in Kenya should be? What a horribly unChristlike comment to make to a missionary being the hands and feet of Jesus in a third world country.

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o    David C Shelton Thank you Ms Nay-sayer, for your heart to help those around you. Praise God for folks like you willing to reach out and help the hurting. Indeed God calls us to first minister to those around us and not neglect doing so. America has it's share of poverty and needs, even so America also has the Vast majority of the Worlds wealth and ability to meet not only our needs, but the needs of a large portion of the entire earth. I used to care less about those outside my own country or even my state of Texas until Christ burned something deep in my soul after traveling to a few 3rd world countries by opening my eyes to the immense wealth of our American society in comparison the the Majority of the World. We truly live in a bubble of a micro-chasm unlike most the world. When I traveled to those countries on evangelical mission trips, my heart broke for the extremely poor of the earth truly scraping by on crumbs. These people like in Kenya where God led me to plant this ministry some 10 years ago live on 30 to 60 dollars a Month! Just think about that. How truly impoverished they really are....They don't have the American welfare and wealthy folks around them to help the out like in America . They don't have a thriving middle class to care for them, nor a government that can afford to meet most of their needs. Poverty is extreme, and I found that with just a few of my dollars, I could really change a life there. Really..just a couple dollars a day Rocks their world..especially if we commit to stay with them for the long haul and help them consistently month by month. Never did I ever image I would literally be saving peoples lives...( not just figuratively) ..but when I went and started helping meet needs and show them the love and Hope only found in Jesus, their lives and their families and then their Churches and communities began to change for the better as Hope helped bring them from the shame and pain of poverty. So God led me to establish this mission there with a deep burning in my bones to see the Gospel of Truth go forth and to brighten peoples spirits and their souls with physical and practical helps. Then God led Stephanie and Jeff Bys to me to go live there full time and begin a much deeper outreach to the needy Children and poor folks who are not able to go to school nor eat nor rid themselves of sickness, abuse and despair. God did this! 
And God is going to keep doing this. And it's a beautiful thing. But we need to likewise work here at home also..but if look at the stats Americans are very generous people, although only a small couple percent of our giving goes to the most needy of the world. 

Here is an amazing fact: For $30 billion, we could end world hunger completely. Not to food-shame anyone, but every year, Americans throw away more than five times that much ($165 billion) in unwanted snacks and meals.

We need to be more balanced stewards of Gods resources internationally. People often ask why God would allow world Hunger or for people to die without knowing about Jesus. The answer is simple. He commissioned you and me to be that voice, and that necessary resource to help them. That's why he blessed us so much. It is our job. Some of us must focus more on this to make up for the lack of those who will not. 

This is why from time to time we cry out and let folks know we are here we need you to help us...help so many that God loves in places like Kenya. Yes we all must choose our battles, and fight the darkness where ever God leads us. We are just one small voice doing the best we know how with the little we have.

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o    Anita Raghuwanshi Ms Nay-sayer I’m so sorry for whatever horrible thing must have happened in your life to make you bitter enough to begrudge starving children in any country food. The fact is that there are enough social programs in America (like WIC) that the children who are starving in America are usually starving because of asshole incompetent parents.... they need lawyers like you to help them, not people with the Bys family’s skillset. The Bys family has an abundance of love and dedication... but they are not lawyers. Their skillset is best suited for exactly where God has sent them.... Have faith that God knows what he is doing and thank you for using your skills to fight the good fight here at home....

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o    Tamara Jean Carlson I think the people in the U.S. are doing our fair share here Roughly half of this welfare assistance, or $462 billion went to families with children, most of which are led by single parents. Total Social Security and Medicare expenditures in 2013 were $1.3 trillion, 8.4% of the $16.3 trillion GNP (2013) and 37% of the total Federal expenditure budget of $3.684 trillion.

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o    Caitlin Nicole Ms Nay-sayer you know nothing about this woman either so to berate her for feeding a child none the less is unnecessary. Are you really getting frustrated that someone is caring for children? You realize all children are God’s children regardless of geographical location.

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o    Caitlin Nicole Ms Nay-sayer I’m not sure why your day is going so bad but please make it less obvious that you are taking it out on other people.

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o    Caitlin Nicole Miranda Wallen Kester in all honesty she began speaking out of terms initially. Steph does a LOT for these kids in Kenya. I don’t know her too well personally (but I’m longtime friends with her sister and I know vaguely of the trials she goes through regardless of the children in Kenya) she’s doing what her resources allow and what her heart and God is telling her to do mind you regardless of the trials she’s facing outside of Kenya. She can barely pull resources for this mission because it’s how life is so I’m not sure how she’d be able to drop everything and help children in America when we have people like her who feel called to help them. If Ms Nay-sayer feels the kids of America need to be helped then I feel that may be God pulling her towards that direction. My father is a deacon and a part of Salvation Army he helps those kids that come from abusive families and neglect that are starving. There’s people doing THEIR part. Their part they’ve been told to do by God. None of us are at place to tell another what their role is in his mission. We either help each other or we help another in my opinion. But we should also not let another bash what one is already doing that the other is not. I don’t believe it is about criticizing as much as it is about realizing that she knows there’s a problem that needs to be solved and that if she wants something to be done that she has every right to do so without telling someone else to do it.

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